Why are Transwomen special?

I saw the quote below posted by another friend on Facebook, and I realized that I need to capture it…and to share it.

You see…I’ve fought my whole life not to be different or special. I didn’t want to be noticed as a boy/man where someone would figure out who I really was and bully/hurt me for not being normal. Even as I transitioned to being myself, I didn’t want special treatment or to be different from other women. I didn’t want special washrooms or special rules…different standards…I just wanted to be a woman like all the others around me.

But this quote made me realize and accept (a bit) that women like me are special…in our own ways. What do you think?

“My friend, still seemingly perplexed, asked me “So if it’s not about genitals, what is it about trans women’s bodies that you find so attractive?”

I paused for a second to consider the question. Then I replied that it is almost always their eyes.

When I look into them, I see both endless strength and inconsolable sadness.

I see someone who has overcome humiliation and abuses that would flatten the average person.

I see a woman who was made to feel shame for her desires and yet had the courage to pursue them anyway.

I see a woman who was forced against her will into boyhood, who held on to a dream that everybody in her life desperately tried to beat out of her, who refused to listen to the endless stream of people who told her that who she was and what she wanted was impossible.

When I look into a trans woman’s eyes, I see a profound appreciation for how fucking empowering it can be to be female, an appreciation that seems lost on many cissexual women who sadly take their female identities and anatomies for granted, or who perpetually seek to cast themselves as victims rather than instigators.

In trans women’s eyes, I see a wisdom that can only come from having to fight for your right to be recognised as female, a raw strength that only comes from unabashedly asserting your right to be feminine in an inhospitable world.

In a trans woman’s eyes, I see someone who understands that, in a culture that’s seemingly fuelled on male homophobic hysteria, choosing to be female and openly expressing one’s femininity is not a sign of frivolousness, weakness or passivity, it is a fucking badge of courage.

Everybody loves to say that drag queens are “fabulous”, but nobody seems to get the fact that trans women are fucking badass!”

Julia Serano, Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity

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